Sometimes it feels like this subs been taken over by men.
Whether it’s a man pretending to be a woman to get fap materiel or the guys that just have to chime in and tell us not all men. Sometimes it feels like the majority of commenters are men.
Whether it’s a man pretending to be a woman to get fap materiel or the guys that just have to chime in and tell us not all men. Sometimes it feels like the majority of commenters are men.
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An important read to be shared far and wide. Enraging, yes, but also incredibly informative, and hopefully empowering. ✨
"The low libido diagnosis will continue to be applied to women whose partners have not been educated, whose encounters are too brief, and whose bodies have never received an accurate anatomy lesson.
That is not a medical failure of the female body. It is a curriculum failure built on fifty years of incomplete sex education, derived from an incomplete anatomical map that was not corrected until 1998, and compounded by a research enterprise that has studied male sexual function as the default."
I work from home and do a lot of video meetings. I'm not a manager, just an individual contributor who's organized and pretty direct.
Last week I had a client call and threw on a simple dark blazer because it helps me get in the right headspace. Nothing flashy, just a plain one. After the call a male coworker messaged me privately to say I did great, then added, "You can be kind of intimidating when you dress like that." He put a laughing emoji and "not a bad thing," but it still landed weird.
I've never heard him call any of the guys intimidating for wearing a button down. If I show up in a sweatshirt I worry I'll be read as less competent. It feels like there is no good option: dress polished and you're intimidating, dress casual and you're not serious.
I didn't reply in the moment. Later I typed, "I'm going for professional, not intimidating," then deleted it because I did not want to start a thing or be labeled sensitive.
I can't stop thinking about how quickly women get assigned a vibe that has nothing to do with the work. Does anyone have a go-to way to handle these little comments that are framed as compliments but leave you second-guessing yourself? I don't want to police what I wear, but I also don't want to carry this awkwardness into every meeting.